Apart from abstinence, using condoms is
the best way to reduce the possibility of transmission of a sexually transmitted disease
including HIV infection.
It's sometimes difficult
to think on the spot about how you can respond to resistant, defensive, or manipulative
comments made by a partner to try to get you not to use
So here are some ideas you
can think about beforehand:
your partner says:
on the pill, we don't need a condom.
like to use it anyway. We'll both be protected from infections we may not realize we have.
know I'm clean; I haven't had sex with anyone in X months.
for telling me. I'm disease-free too. But I'd still like to use a condom since either of
us could have an infection and not know it.
not. This way we'll both be protected.
can't feel a thing when I use a condom. It's like wearing a raincoat in a shower.
if you lose some sensation, you'll have plenty left.
lose my erection by the time I stop and put it on.
help you put it on. That'll help you keep it.
the time I put it on, I'm out of the mood.
so, but we feel strongly enough for each other to stay in the mood.
destroys the romantic atmosphere.
doesn't have to be that way.
are unnatural and fake - a total turnoff.
let's try to work this out - an infection isn't so great either. So let's give the condom
a try. Or maybe we can look for alternatives to intercourse.
kinds of alternatives?
we could just pet, and postpone sex for a while. We could try manual stimulation too.
is an insult! Do you think I'm some kind of disease-ridden slut/gigolo?
didn't say or imply that; but in my opinion, it's best to use a condom.
of my other boyfriends uses a condom. A real man isn't afraid.
don't compare me to them.. A real man cares about the woman he dates, himself, and their
love you. Would I give you an infection?
intentionally. But many people don't know they're infected. That is why it is best for
both of us right now.
on, just this once without?
is all it takes.
don't have a condom with me.
do. or Then let's satisfy each other without intercourse.
carry a condom around with you? You were just trying to seduce me.
always carry one with me because I care about myself and my partner. I have one with me
because I care about us.
won't have sex with you if you're going to insist on using a condom.
let's put it off until we can agree. I won't have sex without one.
won't feel as much if I have a condom on.
won't feel anything if you don't.
don't have any condoms and we don't want to stop this excitement.
have condoms - which kind do you like?
will interrupt sex.
me put it on for you. It can be part of foreplay, and we can make it fun.
Remember and practice
ways of talking about condom use. Use condom sense!
that you're also protecting yourself against diseases that may be inside the vagina and
have no visible signs.
that sexually transmitted diseases do not always have visible signs.
may occur before, during, or after sex. Learn to talk, laugh, and exchange ideas and
feelings with your partner. Communication is the key.
You can talk about your concerns about condoms or sexual activity or communication
problems at the University Health Service, the Counseling Center, Hospital Clinics, and
private medical services. Confidentiality and privacy are always maintained at these
school or local library will have current books and journals. Information about condoms
can usually be found under headings like 'contraceptives' or 'sexually transmitted
But I'm on the pill.
Why do we need condoms?: Sexually transmitted diseases may not have any symptoms in
the male or female. They are easily transmitted during sexual intercourse and are very
prevalent in the 18-30 year old population. The pill is used to prevent pregnancy - it
does not protect against transmission of a disease.
Use of condoms: Always
store them in a cool, dry place. Always check the expiration date. Use latex condoms.
Always use them properly - info is available at Health Services and Counseling.
your partner are worth the effort.
Care enough to use a condom.